In Memory Of Our Son – Christian Mattias

I’m not sure if my readers from the beginning of The Bewitchin’ Kitchen remember or not, but I used to talk about my pregnancy, and I never followed through with what happened. I was over six months pregnant when I found out our baby died. I was told to go to Red Deer Hospital to give birth. He was still born. The nurses and doctors in Red Deer were amazing, and the social worker, Heather Moon was lovely. I will never forget them. We named his Christian Mattias and the hospital gave us a blanket, booties, all his prints, a “birth certificate” and a teddy bear. The worst thing that has ever  happened to me. I learned a lot about stillborns though. Did you know that if your baby dies within 72 hours of birth he/she will be classified as stillborn? I personally feel that once your baby is no longer a “fetus” he or she should be registered and you should receive a real birth and death certificate. Not only would it help with closure, but it is what is right!

There are so many ignorant people out there, but that is another story that I don’t want to get into. Basically the social worker made sure we knew that our loss was the same as any parents losing their child and a lot of horrible people disagreed (there are some really rude people out there).

I have to say our funeral home here in the town I live in is fantastic! They didn’t charge us a cent for the cremation or for the transportation from Red Deer. Then a couple of days ago I received a phone call from them. They made us a Christmas ornament in honor of Christian. It really shows that there are some amazing people out there. I wanted to post some pictures, we received the ornament, a beautiful box, and a heartfelt poem about his first Christmas in Heaven.




5 comments on “In Memory Of Our Son – Christian Mattias”

  1. I am so very sorry for your loss! The ornament is beautiful! I am sure your son is happy healthy baby boy in Heaven!

  2. I am so sorry for your loss! How sweet for them to send you this beautiful momento to hold and cherish.

  3. I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I never knew that about 72 hours being considered stillborn. It shocks me. It’s great that you were surrounded by supportive people and I hope you have peace during this holiday season.

  4. Randa: I had no idea and I am so very sorry! I am so glad to hear that the funeral home was helpful and compassionate. I think the ornament is beautiful and such a lovely gesture to help families remember. I also had no idea you had been blogging so long!

    • Thank you Paula. Every year we put up this beautiful ornament in memory of our son.

      I have been blogging since 2009, it’s evolved a LOT since then.

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